1. Keep the children’s needs paramount, including their need for good and ongoing relationships with both parents and their extended families.
     
  2. Seek an appropriate way to include your children’s views in your decisions, while making it clear that although they have a voice, adults make the choice.
     
  3. Don’t burden children with adult issues, or ask them to relay information from parent to parent. 
     
  4. Be polite and respectful with your ex. If tensions arise then discontinue the conversation and take the issue up at a different time.
     
  5. Avoid interfering in the activities or routines of kids when they are with the other parent, recognizing that house rules and routines will vary between homes. 
     
  6. In the event that a child complains to you about the other parent, encourage the child to talk directly about the issue with the other parent. Get involved yourself (or get other professionals involved) only if the child is frightened, or if the matter persists.